What if… we were coaching flowers?

I was intending to write about potential barriers to coaching, but taking time in the all-too-rare spring morning sunshine, I began watching ‘sleeping’ dandelions awakening under the emerging heat and light of the sun. Potential barriers to coaching… My mind began to wander.

What if… we were coaching flowers? Would we as coaches be the warmth of the sun or the chill of a cold winter wind? Light beaming upon the flowers’ upturned faces, or the shade on a cloudy day when they’d prefer to turn away and sleep?

Sitting watching the dandelions transform, I noticed my thoughts circling round a couple of themes…

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“A way of seeing people” – What coaching is…

We’ve looked in a previous post at some aspects of what coaching isn’t. Let’s start to look at what it is.

As I see it, John Whitmore had it about right when he said in an interview that coaching is:  “a way of seeing people.” *  It’s the implications of this short but deceptively simple phrase that I want to consider today.

The core of coaching     At the heart of coaching is the belief on the part of the coach, that individuals have within themselves the resources necessary for developing their expertise beyond their current level of competency. Read that sentence again slowly and really think about what it means in practical as well as philosophical terms.

We’re describing a “way of seeing” and a way of interacting between the individuals in coaching relationships, which have at their core infinite respect for the integrity, wisdom and ability of coachees, at least in relation to their own issues and affairs. Without this crucial attitude being in place, no genuine coaching can take place.

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Book Thoughts – Excellence in Coaching: The Industry Guide

Are you new to the idea of coaching? A coach in training? Or an ‘old hand’ who thinks you’ve been coaching all your life but never got round to formal study?

Well, if you’re looking for a reliable overview of the field of coaching, Excellence in Coaching: The Industry Guide (3rd Edition 2016)  is the book for you. Edited by coach psychologist Jonathan Passmore and endorsed by the Association for Coaching, this volume brings together introductory articles by top thinkers and practitioners in their fields.

You won’t become a professional coach based on reading what’s between these covers, but you’ll certainly be more informed about standard definitions and theories, as well as know where to turn to next. Read the book straight through or dip in here and there to learn about particular topics, it’s up to you. Either way, you’ll find something to educate you and make you think.

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Coach training and the art of losing friends…

The signs are all there. The ones you see are bad enough – people’s eyes glaze over, they turn away, and if they’re in groups, they may even scatter. The ones you don’t see can be even worse – people rolling their eyes or looking up to the heavens when you approach, the gatherings you no longer get invited to. What am I talking about?

The effect of trainee coaches on those around them…

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